Monday, September 22, 2008

when life comes to an end

We travel along in life not thinking how it is all going to end when suddenly you hit sixty plus (that's me!) and think hey, how are we going to manage and who is going to look after us when we cannot look after ourselves.

My mother has been managing very well on her own until a month ago when, at the age of 91, she had a minor stroke which she is recovering from but although her mental state is excellent she is weak physically. After two weeks in hospital she is now in a very nice nursing home trying to recover her strength. It is so upsetting and difficult when a parent is suddenly helpless and only wants to be at home and when her children live a long way from her and want her to be safe and secure.

How can we plan our later years so that we are not a burden to our children? Life expectancy is longer now. In Jordan the family tend to look after their own with large close knit relations who live relatively near each other but in UK, where I am at the moment, families are spread all over the country and the world. So there are many nursing homes, sheltered accommodation and residential homes that care for the elderly. If you have the finances some of these homes are acceptable but if you have to rely on the State it is very different. How do we cope with old age? T


Blogger MommaBean said...

Definitely a valid issue. My grandmother (who always lived far away from her kids) made her own arrangements with a retirement community. It was the typethat had apartments, then a nursing home for when you couldn't manage on your own. But, as yo said, it required significant personal savings to swing something like that...

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