car crash in Aqaba
Four families devastated because their children were killed whilst joy riding at insane speeds. As I understand it the driver was under age with no licence. Do we blame the parents? They have now paid the ultimate sacrifice with the loss of a child and will never get over their pain. They will blame themselves endlessly and say 'if only' or 'why didn't I'.
My heart goes out to them in their grief and I hope that other parents will take a lesson from this tragedy. T
My heart goes out to them in their grief and I hope that other parents will take a lesson from this tragedy. T
posted by joladies at Tuesday, December 09, 2008
13 Comments:
God rest their souls. Fadi, Laith, Mahdi, and Raya.
Surely an accident that DIDN'T have to happen!
This is every parents worst nightmare, my heart bleeds for them and the young friends of these four,
RIP
These details make it even more tragic. My heart is constricted thinking of these parents.
A cruel and tragic twist of fate for young people on the verge of graduation .... RIP Fadi, Raya, Laith and Mahdi, forever in the hearts and minds of your many friends in Amman ....let's pray that others will learn from your ultimate sacrifice.
I'm disappointed in your sentence "they will blame themselves endlessly." & in your "other parents take a lesson from this tragedy." The parents (I know one of the kids) had v. little to do with this. You have lived in Jordan long enough to know how kids in Jordan are acting these days, and by no means should parents put extreme limitations on their children. Trust me, we were all kids once, and nothing can stop kids from doing what they want. A lot can be done in schools, especially around drunk driving. I have a plan and once I am back in Amman, I will be talking to some of the schools and sharing my idea. But in any case, even though you wrote this- I am sure- with compassion towards the suffering families, be careful with the guilt hints - guilt is the worst enemy of man, and if any of these parents read your message, it might add to the pain. Rather than try to diffuse it. Thank you and great site by the way...
How can you not partially blame the parents? A parent's job is to raise your kids with as much wisdom as possible. I understand being young and foolish and being in that phase where those things are 'cool', trust me, we've all been there. But to say that the parent's had no part in this is ludicrous. How do you allow children to be alone in Aqaba with a car handy? This society makes boys into men way too early. They were children, very very young.
Another thing that I'm surprised nobody has ever mentioned that hasn't left my mind since I heard the news, is that these kids are being hailed as heroes and angels on Facebook and throughout the community, however everybody is disregarding the fact that they put other innocent lives in danger. They were fully aware that they were speeding, but nobody likes to think the worst can happen to them. How dare they assume it is okay to put other innocent citizens' lives in harm's way? How would you feel if they had crashed into another car full of people? Would your view still be the same? They were young, it is a tragedy, and I honestly feel for the parents, may God rest their minds and give them peace, but people need to stop being so emotional and think clearly!!! Jordan needs to SERIOUSLY step up its road safety rules, its DMV procedures and driver's license test, and the joke that is driving on Amman roads.
Basma, thank you for your thoughts. I think any parent would feel guilty when their child does irresponsible things, of course not many end up dead in a car. We say to ourselves, if only we had been more strict, if only we had said no, or if only we had taken more care etc etc. The parents of the driver must feel even more upset as it was their son who killed the others. T
"You have lived in Jordan long enough to know how kids in Jordan are acting these days, and by no means should parents put extreme limitations on their children. Trust me, we were all kids once, and nothing can stop kids from doing what they want"
Basma, I hope you don't mind if I disagree. Under-age, unlicensed boys taking the keys from mom's purse are a rampant problem in Amman and is often overlooked as 'boys will be boys' issue. I caught the 15 year old son of a school administrator putting the lives of at least 10 younger children in danger speeding near a school, and the parent DENIED it.
This is not extreme limitation, and parents SHOULD know and can very well keep kids from doing 'what they want' when it puts the lives of others in danger. If that child had harmed my daughter, this excuse would not have gone very far.
I'm glad you have a plan, God knows Jordan needs several, but I hope parental responsibility will be a part of the package.
kinzi, and may I add that it wasnt any drive, nor any speed, the speedo meter showed 160 KMs/h at crash time, eye witnesses expect they were driving with over 200 KMs/h
So i disagree as well with basma's "nothing can stop kids from doing what they want", and how come the parent "had v. little to do with this.", a 1st time driver cant go not to 60 KMs/h, this means their parents, or at least the driver parents knew about him driving around!
May god rest their soul in piece, and may it be a lesson for other parents as well as T said.
Dear All,
It's a real tragedy. It's not only a huge & sad loss for the parents and families , but it's actually a national tragedy that we all have to loose such -so young- good boys and girls for such a very stupid reason !
Who's to blame ??
I believe the whole nation
( Citizens and Government)is to blame.Following are some of the reasons:
1.The current educational & schooling system .
2.Parental ignorance and poor guidance & supervision of the children.
3.The poor public awareness level.
4.The lack of interest of the Media in tackling such and similar issues.
5.Existing roads design mistakes, roads quality and poor roads' signage & protection systems.
6.Lack of strict regulations and weak implementation of existing laws due to different reasons.
7.Several other reasons.
We all in Jordan have a big responsibility towards this issue, at least to attempt to reduce the number of these on going tragedies of our own precious children whom we all love more than anything else in life.
Photos of the accident
http://nasimjo.blogspot.com/2008/12/exclusive-photos-of-aqaba-teenagers-car.html
Allah yer7ahome.This is a true tragedy. Where was all the parents when this happen. Yes teenagers can be become out of control and with no boundaries. But this only happy when parents let it happens. In this tragedy we have 10 adults who are responsible ((THE PARANTS)). Who been unavailable to know where and what their kids are doing. I hope we all can learn a lesson from all this. And hold our kids close to our heart and learn to say no. When NO help them and look for their best interest and in this case safe their lives.
OMG they we my sisters friends, we went to the funeral and it was just sad! i feel sorry for the one that is alive and saw the whole thing happening! just look at the pics just imagine wat happend to the people in the car! =( btw just that morning, me and my sister were with them but we left aqaba that afternoon! my sister blames herself for not taking raya with us she said she would come the next day! my sister everyday gets messages from people saying may she rest in peace and my sister crys everyday when she gets the messages! because she was her best friend since they were little!
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